Joe Nguyen is a digital strategist for The Denver Post. Previously he was the online prep sports editor. Prior to that, he covered Adams County and Aurora in the YourHub section. He has previously covered Colorado’s Asian-American communities as editor for Asian Avenue magazine and AsiaXpress.com.
My father-in-law is in a relationship with a person that makes staying at his home during a visit an awful experience for me, my husband and our kids. My husband is not one to confront and is simply too kind and shy to stand up to this woman who has taken over hosting.
Should I just do the same as my husband would otherwise do or simply tell my father-in-law we are staying elsewhere this time around without giving a reason. I do not feel it is my place to discuss the issues about this woman with him so I feel I cannot be honest.If I had a family crest, it would read “No more sufferfests!” No more grinning and bearing it at the vacation rental no one actually likes or doing the holiday tradition that makes everyone miserable.
I have always quibbled with the labor imbalance in our relationship. For two decades, I have been the one who did the heavy lifting: dinner, dishes, school paperwork, medical appointments, holidays, decorating the home. Our 8-year-old was born severely premature, and that added a few years of weekly appointments with specialists, ordering supplies, hospital stays, and the like. Those were mine to handle, too. It’s been hard.
What am I if all of these things were just nothing? I was already on the fence about whether I should stay in this relationship or leave, but now my core sense of self is so shaken, and I feel so ashamed that I’ve spent my whole adult life on something so meaningless. What do I do?I’m so sorry. Your husband is dead wrong, and I know you know this. It’s time to make a change for your own health and that of your kids.
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