A letter writer wants a former employer who enabled “a known predator” to see how well they’re doing at their new job.
I worked in an office where I was bullied and harassed by a known predator who targeted me for attacks. This employer handled the situation like all enablers of abusers: deny, blame, ignore, and marginalize the victim. I was 59 when this happened and had never faced anything like it.
Part of me feels that this would be petty and vindictive. At the same time, I’ve never had any real sense of closure from this experience. I’d like to let them know that this disposable human being survived.Sometimes a little petty can be a lot of fun, but bullies and abusers have a way of wheedling their way back into our consciousness, and that can turn a petty party into torture.
My logical side says that lightning won’t strike twice, but my fear is my fear. I find it most distressing that he won’t consider my feelings. Am I being unreasonable?You aren’t being unreasonable. This is a major source of trauma for you. Even though it was decades ago, you’re still processing parts of it. This sort of grief is a lifelong relationship, unfortunately. It is, indeed, a relationship that predates your current 27-year marriage.
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