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Martha is creating an uncomfortable situation for everyone at the table. Why would you ignore it? She’s not shy about belittling her partner in public, so maybe you should be less shy about reacting honestly to it.
Because this is a pattern with a clear perpetrator, you should call her out. Before agreeing to see them again, one — or both — of you should tell Martha, “We enjoy spending time with both of you, but Martha, the way you speak to George when we’re together makes us very uncomfortable. We are bewildered by it and feel bad for him.”Ideally, your husband would try to speak with George privately, to check in and ask how he feels about this verbal abuse, and the relationship overall.
As with most problems, I think we know what we should do to solve them, but it is nice/good to get affirmation.I’m the kind of person that thinks of the right things to say two hours after the conversation is over! I also appreciate how your loyal readers give advice, too.You frequently tell letter writers that some things are none of their business.
I use this unsolicited advice often, saying to myself, “What would Amy say?” when I feel like being a buttinski.I have found this to be an extremely effective way to handle my own problems. I ask myself, honestly, what I would advise a reader to do, and then I try to be as brave as I often encourage readers to be.
This can help to clarify options, including, of course, the option of choosing not to be a buttinski.
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