He leaves the kitchen so messy after using it there are now mice and house flies.
I have a wonderful marriage of several decades with “Lance.” In many ways, Lance holds up his end of the roommate bargain that comes with long-term partnership. He cooks half the time, helps me in the garden , does his own laundry, etc.All that said, he’s a terrible slob in the kitchen, and in ways that cause problems.
I have tried everything, from strongly reprimanding him to cleaning up after him like he’s a toddler and I’m his mother, to ignoring it hoping he’ll see how bad it gets. However I travel for work and am often gone for a few nights at a time — during which time the kitchen becomes a disaster. I can’t constantly stay on top of it, and I shouldn’t have to! Now we have fruit flies, house flies, and mice.
I suggest that you, yet again, describe this problem and outline both the health and hygiene issues, as well as the unfair burden this places on you. Tell your husband, “You’re so great about other things. I just don’t understand why this is such a block for you. Can you try harder to clean up after yourself in the kitchen?” Listen for his explanation and reassurance.And then deliver your own consequence. Tell him, “I’m so frustrated by this.
For my very first funeral, I stood in for a colleague who was out on an extended vacation. At the gravesite, a health-care provider suddenly let loose on the elderly widower, degrading him about his lack of caring for his wife. Fortunately, my prior naval career had provided experience in dealing with difficult people.Afterward, I called the doctor who employed this person. A few days later, both I and the widower received an apology.
After reading one of your latest columns, I realized how relieved I am not to have to “gear up” for what should be celebrations of life.Funerals are high-stress events. I give credit to clergy and funeral directors who work so hard to try to keep the peace.” really worried me. This Momzilla described her daughter’s very controlling fiancé. Her daughter is headed for real trouble if this wedding is allowed to take place.
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