Staying busy is what makes me happy. Can our marriage be saved?
My mostly amazing husband doesn’t mind idle time. This would be OK, except he resents my constant coming and going.
I let my husband know years ago that I would hardly be home when I retired. He doesn’t understand my daytime activities and doesn’t share my interests. We’ve fought about this and he gets very upset.I love him and don’t want to cause him hurt, but after 24 years together I’m wondering if we are incompatible.You seem to define “idleness” as a pejorative, and I wonder if you send your husband some signals that you don’t approve of the way he is spending his time.
You and your husband might compromise by choosing an activity out of the house that you could enjoy together. You should research some new pursuits that might be of common interest to see if you could build up a fresh dynamic. Well, about six months ago we fell in love with a small-breed young dog and brought her home. It did not occur to us that this might create a problem.
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