Letter writer is skipping family wedding because 12-year-old daughter can’t attend.
My husband’s niece is getting married. I’m so happy for her. There has been much talk about the wedding. We’ve already received the save-the-date.
Let’s put your feelings aside and focus on your behavior, as well as the lessons you are passing along to your daughter. Essentially, you are teaching her that disappointment is actually devastation, and that the way to cope with devastation is to insist that everyone around you demonstrate their solidarity by also being devastated. Then everybody stays home, sulking.
I am considering not even inviting them this year because they never come and they stress us out with their last-minute responses. Also, the two families that don’t show up at our events never invite us to any of their events, so I assume our desire to be closer is not mutual.Should we keep inviting them, or should we take the hint that they aren’t really interested?I think you should invite these family members this year, and assume that — as usual — they will not accept.
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