Do you have a child with ADHD who just won’t listen or follow any rules? Is the situation so difficult that it feels hopeless? If so, the Nurtured Heart Approach created by therapist Howard Glasser might be the answer to your struggles. Learn about the Nurtured Heart Approach and how you can reconnect with your child.
Do you have a child with ADHD who just won’t listen or follow any rules? Is the situation so difficult that it feels hopeless? If so, the Nurtured Heart Approach created by therapist Howard Glasser might be the answer to your struggles.
Learn about the Nurtured Heart Approach and how you can reconnect with your child.Standard behavior modification approaches are designed to support adults in guiding energetic children with attention deficit disorder toward choices that will maintain harmony in homes and classrooms.Instead of trying to modify behavior and exert control, the Nurtured Heart Approach transforms the child by altering the way his parents relate to him. Eventually, it changes the way the child relates to himself and the world. Testimonials are not difficult to find. Says one mother: “My husband and I were desperate to find an approach that worked for our high-energy six-year-old boy. No form of discipline made him listen to us or follow rules. We tried the the Nurtured Heart Approach, and it transformed my son into a well-behaved, considerate boy who listens to his parents. I consider this a miracle.”In the early- to mid-1990s, Howard Glasser was working as a family therapist in private practice in Tucson, Arizona. Many families came to him seeking help managing their challenging children. All his training and focus went toward trying to help these families, but the tactics his training had taught him didn’t improve his clients’ situations. Disillusioned and frustrated, Glasser started to work on new ways of working with these children, guided by his own history of being an exquisitely difficult child himself. Through a process of intuition, trial, and error, he created an approach that, for years, didn’t have a name. Word traveled quickly as he seemed to “cure” young people with. Interns trained in his methods at a family therapy center he opened in Tucson, and it became more effective than professionals in improving the behaviors of challenging children. Eventually, Glasser started to formalize his methods, which enabled him to teach it as a unified approach. And he came up with a name. He wrote his first book with therapist Jennifer Easley,Since its inception, the Nurtured Heart Approach has been adopted by hundreds of thousands of families, thousands of teachers and administrators, dozens of schools, and dozens more school systems and child welfare systems.on this approach is nearly complete at this writing. It looks at whether the Nurtured Heart Approach reduces children’sof impulsivity, hyperactivity, and inattention, reduces parental stress, and increases a sense of competency among parents of children with ADHD. Early results are promising. Some of the most compelling evidence for the approach’s effectiveness comes from parents: “Our son has always been intense, but as he approached four he was starting to act out in increasingly difficult and physical ways. Within 48 hours of reinforcing his positive behaviors and de-energizing his negative behaviors, he was a different child. I fell in love with my son all over again.”The overarching impetus of the Nurtured Heart Approach is that the intensity that goes awry and that eventually becomes symptomatic and diagnosable is the energy source that fuels a child’s greatness. Instead of having a child run laps to burn off intensity or placing him in activities meant to channel that life force, you can use specific ways of relating to the child that transform that intensity into fuel for the child’s innate greatness. From that place, the child is drawn to make good choices, use wisdom and self-control, and to be compassionate and collaborative. The NHA sets up the transformation by creating a paradigm shift for the adult. It carries the adult learner through a series of contentions, intentions, and techniques to engineer this shift. The principles of Nurtured Heart Approach are:Children learn at an early age that they get a lot more “juice” from adults when things are going wrong. Naturally intense children will work that dynamic to obtain the biggest possible dose of focused, emotionally vivid connection from adults. Stand One begins to flip that dynamic: simple refusal to connect in an energized way with the child around challenging behaviors. It is crucial to establish this first stand before the other two, but it becomes effective only when it is used alongside the second Stand.This Stand is about finding and acknowledging positive and neutral behaviors — any behaviors that don’t involve breaking rules. It flips the dynamic of energy for negative behaviors into energy for positive and neutral behaviors. As the child comes to expect to be rewarded with connection and appreciation for not acting out, he shifts. Mastering this Stand entails a consistent appreciation and commitment to remember to state appreciation in moments when a parent thought nothing worth remarking on what was happening. What is appreciatively expressed to the child is never BS. It comes from truth-based recognition, based on what has been there all along.The third Stand is: Be clear about the rules of your household or classroom, stating them in a “No…” format: . This brings a greater clarity than so-called “positive rules”: “Keep your hands to yourself” or “Be kind” or “Clean up after yourself.” Adults who have raised challenging children know that if the line between rule followed and rule broken isn’t perfectly clear, the child will test and push to figure out where the line is. You may end up with a lot of rules, but that’s OK. It leaves more room for Stand Two appreciations where the rules are not being broken: “Billy, I love that you chose to not argue when the game with your brother didn’t go your way. I saw you were upset and you handled those feelings so powerfully and wisely by deciding not to fuss.” When a rule is broken, the Nurtured Heart Approach uses an un-energized “reset” as a consequence. This is a form of time-out where the adult temporarily disconnects from the child, giving zero reactivity to the rule-breaking behavior and saying, “Billy, reset.” The adult watches carefully for the next moment when something is going right or the rule-breaking is dwindling or stopping, and goes back to Stand Two: “Thanks for resetting. I see that you aren’t pushing your sister any more, and that shows me you are using your self-control and thoughtfully expressing kindness.”The Nurtured Heart Approach may seem overly positive at first. What’s true is that it is based in absolute truth of the moment. Either a rule is being broken, or it isn’t. If a rule isn’t being broken, actively offer energized, positive acknowledgement and appreciation. If a rule is being broken, it’s time for a reset and a new chance for success.The Parents’ Guide to Dismantling Oppositional, Defiant BehaviorStay informed with trusted information, resources, and support delivered straight to your inbox. Choose the newsletters that interest you most.
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