Couples who feel more alone when they are together than they do when they are apart may be dealing with this harmful relationship dynamic. Here's how to break free, writes jwebbphd
Double-emotional-neglect couples are often puzzled about what's missing in their marriage and form incorrect assumptions about each other.
Being raised in a family that does not address your feelings launches you into your adult life without two things that you need for a healthy, happy,It's difficult enough when one member of a couple grew up with emotional neglect. But when two emotionally neglected people marry, special challenges abound. Neither spouse has full access to their emotions and neither has the necessary emotion skills.
“Is there any more coffee?” Olive asks absentmindedly while reading the day’s news on her laptop. Irritated, Oscar stands up abruptly and walks over to the coffee maker to check. “I wonder what’s going on with Oscar,” she muses. “He seems so irritable lately. I wonder if his workAfter thinking it through, Olive makes a plan to avoid Oscar for the day in hopes that giving him some alone time will help his mood improve . Olive makes a plan to ask him about work at dinnertime to see if he is indeed under stress.
This double-childhood emotional neglect couple seems much like every other couple in many ways. And yet they are very, very different. This type of relationship is riddled with incorrect assumptions and false readings. And unfortunately, neither partner has the communication skills to check with the other to actually find out what he is thinking or feeling, or why she does what she does.
So forward they go, into the coming weeks, months, and years, with Oscar viewing Olive as lazy and manipulative, and Olive on constant guard against a return of Oscar’s job stress. Drastically out of tune with one another, they live in separate worlds, growing ever distant from each other.Olive and Oscar sometimes feel more alone when they are together than they do when they are apart. They are divided by a chasm as wide as the ocean.
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