'I found my wife's notebook. Written on the first page was a 10-step plan detailing how she was going to leave me for another guy. I turned it into one step.'
Ex-Husbands And Boyfriends Are Exposing The Ways They"Accidentally" Found Out Their Partners Were Having Affairs, And Wowwwww "I found my wife's notebook. Written on the first page was a 10-step plan detailing how she was going to leave me for another guy.
I turned it into one step."found out their wives and girlfriends were cheating on them. Each time, several users have added their own wildly heartbreaking stories. Here are all the stories we've compiled so far:was using lots of her data. I explained that she could see how much data an app was using in her settings. I showed her and proved it wasn't by pointing out Tinder was using much more data... The way it went down was sad but also funny.""I dated this girl a few years back, and I became really good friends with her brother just because he appreciated my help during a difficult time for their family . Then, two years into the relationship, the brother contacts me and asks to meet up for coffee and a serious conversation. HE caught his sister with another guy, and this had been going on for, like, a year. As soon as he found out, I was told. I broke up with her, but I'm still friends with her brother. Go figure." "I noticed on the phone bill that she was texting a certain number 600 times a month. It seemed familiar, and when I looked it up, it was one of my friends.""She broke things off when she got pregnant because she was sure it was someone else's baby. Turns out I was one of three possible dads. Fast-forward a couple of years, and after some paternity tests, we discovered it was actually mine." "I found my wife's notebook. Written on the first page was a 10-step plan detailing how she was going to leave me for another guy. I turned it into one step.""She came home from work one day, put her purse on the kitchen chair, and it fell on the floor and spilled everything out, including her burner phone. I picked it up and asked what it was; she acted like she didn't know. It only had one number in it, and it was his." "I suspected she was cheating, so I catfished the guy I thought it was with and got him to confirm it. Then, I dumped her straight away.""I came back from a trip four hours early. My wife was still supposed to be at work. I opened the front door to see her sitting topless on the couch, making out with a coworker. He ran out the door; she ran into a bathroom and locked the door. I sat on that couch for about an hour because I couldn’t think of what else to do. Finally, I just up and left, so she could come out of the bathroom and put a shirt on." "A couple of weeks ago, I sent a message to a mutual friend asking to borrow a router. He didn't answer, butI thought. I pull up to his house and start heading down the driveway. He has a long country driveway, so it's a few seconds before I see my car already there. My heart began to sink, but he and my wife are friends and business partners, maybe it's nothing. I got out of my van and looked up to see him shirtless in his bedroom." "At this point, my heart is down on my stomach, and I am visibly shaking. I go in and immediately head upstairs. He is alone, now clothed. I say, 'I came to borrow the router. Have you seen my wife? The car is here.' He then proceeds to give the worst improv I've ever heard. 'Huh? No, she was here at some point, though.' Whatever, I knew she was there, I just wanted him to admit it. I go down, take the router, and head back to the van, where I finally encounter my wife topless, trying to sneak around the side of his house. And now here I am.""I woke up to her on her phone with hearts scrolling in Facebook Messenger. We had been married for seven years at that point, with two kids. It was my birthday." "On Christmas Eve, I went into the computer to find a photo for a last-minute gift, an ornament with a family photo I did for her as a tradition every year. Instead, I found a love letter from some guy at the gym to her. Then kept looking and found tons more. Over the next year, it just got worse and worse to a point you'd never believe. Gosh, that was a fun Christmas for me and our young children.""After suspecting my wife, I went to the store and bought a small voice recorder. One evening, before heading out to play hockey, I placed it away from eyes' view to record. When I came back that evening, I listened to what was recorded...and lo and behold, she had an intimate conversation over the phone with a coworker...I'll spare the content. I confronted her with it...she confessed.""She had ordered DoorDash for us and fell asleep before our food was even picked up. I grabbed her phone to check the delivery status and absentmindedly started closing all the apps like I do with my own phone when I saw her texts open with some guy I didn’t know. Turns out she had been hooking up with quite a few different people she met on dating apps. Crazy thing is: We were in an open relationship, and I was totally fine with her having other partners, so long as she was honest about it.""We found out she was pregnant. A few weeks later we're cuddling on the couch, and I get a call from my sister on the opposite side of the country. She informs me that some random woman on Facebook messaged her claiming her husband and my wife were having an affair. I didn't believe it, but it was all true. I was military, and she was meeting up with married grunts in hotel rooms. Literally two weeks after we learn we're expecting a child, not even a year into the marriage, I find this out." "Had a woman I lived with for three years tell me that she’s spending the night with her sick mother, only to have her 'sick' mother stop by at our house looking for her. I then found a love letter to a guy she worked with. Found his house and caught them both there.""My ex-wife had so many affairs, many going on at the same time, that she frequently lost track of what she had said, done, or arranged and with whom, where, and when. I was once asked if I remembered the name of the meal we'd shared at a Greek restaurant I'd never visited, thanked for a gift I hadn't bought her, castigated for failing to attend a meeting I knew nothing about, and so on. She didn't drive, so I was forever being asked to either pick her up or drop her off at work, and I often arrived to find someone else had already. I knew that one day my arrival would coincide with whoever else it was she had asked that day, but things turned out even better than that when I saw her get into his car and set off when I was still far enough away for them not to notice me. I followed them all the way back to his house and bombarded them on his doorstep.""I had caught my wife lying about where she was , and she gaslighted me into thinking I was incorrect. Two weeks later, I got a call in the middle of the work day from a woman saying her husband was sleeping with my wife. They ruined two families.""We moved to Texas at the beginning of summer, and immediately enrolled our kids into Taekwondo for fitness and friends. I thought the instructor was sus when I found out he was married to the mother of two students . It didn’t help when he later openly dated a couple of mothers while he was still married to the woman whose marriage he had broken up. My wife of over 20 years told me he was sensitive, and his wife didn’t understand him. I knew what was coming and soon found the text exchanges confirming he was now flirting with her." "We have three kids, so I fought for my marriage for eight years. She is the 10th mother of a student to sleep with him . She tried to deny the affair, maintaining that they were just good friends, and I was delusional. I told her they would be dating within a year of our divorce; one week after the one-year anniversary, they announced they were dating and married within the year. People who knew him his whole life reached out to me after they found out and apologized for not warning me. They’ve been married for almost three years now. He’s begun traveling more for work, and he recently had to give up his position in TKD leadership because he expects to 'spend more time on the road.' She doesn’t see anything wrong with that… I raised the last of our three kids myself, and he is as good as they come. Me? I’m still figuring out how to forgive myself for putting so much time, effort, and money into a dying relationship. If you’ve read this long, my message to you is to believe what you see the first time and be willing to walk away first; anything else is extremely costly in many ways.""My wife of 15 years decided one day she wanted to separate. She came home one evening from drinks with coworkers and said we needed to talk. I was floored. But our marriage had been slowly headed in that direction. So, I told her I’d give her the space she was asking for. I loved her enough to do that. She started going out and coming home late . Changed the password on her phone's lock screen. Turned off her location. I checked the phone records to find she was talking to a male coworker 10 years her junior for hours on end outside of work hours. I confronted her about it, and she denied it. I believed her because I guess I wanted to. I couldn’t handle all the late nights out with her 'girlfriends' plus a weekend getaway with the 'girls.' So, I moved out." "I know the guy because they worked together for the last 10 years, and sometimes I’d tag along for the after-work drinks, and on occasion I’d drive him home. So, I know where he lives. One evening, I was driving through his neighborhood and impulsively turned onto his street and saw my wife’s car in front of his house. I waited for about an hour and a half, a block away, and watched and waited. They eventually emerged from his house, and after he helped her into the front seat, they made out for a very long time. I don’t know why I punished myself like that, and although I was completely devastated, I was glad to know the truth and that I wasn’t losing my mind after all. Some simple sleuthing afterwards, and I discovered that this was going on for a while before she had asked for the separation, and that her weekend away with the girls was really with him. I never confronted them. I’d rather she not know that I know, so I can gauge her level of honesty with me when we’re dealing with the coparenting of our kids. However, I do hope she reads this and wonders if it’s about her.""My wife of 35 years was having problems texting our daughter on her iPhone. She handed me her phone and asked me to try to fix it. The problem was the Android vs. iPhone thing, where you had to occasionally resend a text as a SIM. I futzed around with the settings awhile, then decided to scroll recent texts to see if there were any I needed to resend. I came across a text thread between her and one of my employees. My stomach sank as I read my wife's words to another man, saying 'I love you, I want you, I need you,' and asking him to come to her as soon as possible. End of story, end of marriage.""Came home from evening class to find a used condom floating in the toilet bowl. She had been 'entertaining' him while I was out.""Married 13 years. We had my wife’s cousin and his friend visiting. When she didn’t come to bed after 1 a.m., I went looking for her. Her cousin was still out at the pool and pretended not to know where she was. I took our two dogs and checked the house, and found her naked in the guest bedroom with the friend. She told me the next morning it was something we’d all laugh about someday. We divorced shortly after.""I had just finished a discussion with my wife after she said she couldn’t do whatever thing we were supposed to be doing that evening because she had to work. As I walked upstairs, I heard her jump on the phone to tell someone that she 'got out of it' and could meet them now. I confronted her immediately, and she was flabbergasted and unable to come up with a coherent response." "I analyzed all of her known friendships and decided the husband of a couple she was friends with was a possibility, so I contacted his wife. After asking some questions, she became curious, so I told her my concern. She said it wasn’t her husband, and the way she responded told me she knew the real person. She cracked in five minutes. I then confronted my wife, and after three hours of interrogation, she admitted the affair. Her only condition was that I tell her who ratted her out. I recorded her confession and used it to get a fast divorce with no BS. I got all of the community property and alimony. The divorce was final in 38 days.""I found an email communication between my ex-wife and her coworker in which she was clearly trying to entice him into a date. I emailed him back and told him to 'stay away from my wife.' His girlfriend read that email, confronted him, and then broke up with him. He confronted my wife the next day, and awkwardly told her that he was never interested to begin with, but he appreciated us messing with his life. My wife and I stayed together for at least another 10 years, making each other miserable." "I caught my wife because my 'daughter' wanted to do an Ancestry DNA test to find out her ethnicity. We had been married 23 years, and she was 14 years old. She is still my daughter, but I kicked my now ex-wife to the curb.""I had a sense something was going on between my wife and…her first cousin. Yep, her first cousin. We had visited him on our honeymoon, and the vibe seemed off even then. Over the next three years, it just didn’t feel right. I sat her down more than once to ask what was going on between her and her cousin. She looked me straight in the eyes and so convincingly said that I was pretty wild to think something was going on. But I sure felt something was off. And… She almost convinced me I was wrong." "One day, I was emptying the trash to find all our phone bills for a few months. We were very good at keeping records on lots of different bills. As I looked at the bills, I saw many phone calls at times when I was out of the house to his phone number. Very long calls, like one to two hours. I got angry and had to find out what was up. I dug through her file cabinet to find plenty of evidence that they were having an affair. Including an audio tape where she reveled in the idea of the two of them getting together and cheating on me and his wife. I listened to the entire tape. It sure was torturous. But then I had the proof, and I had no doubts. When she came back to the house, I simply held up the tape and asked, 'What the f*ck is this?' She got incredibly angry that I had snooped through her stuff. I was incredibly angry that she lied to me for years and gaslighted me. Our therapist later took my side and explained that when a person is being lied to and can't stop thinking about it, they will typically search through personal things or follow up somehow to find the real truth. Then, she acted contrite and agreed to never contact him again. However, one more time, it just didn’t feel right. I am an engineer and a clever fellow. So, I broke the code on her voicemail to find several messages she had saved from him. Still talking about getting together. That was it for me. I had committed my life to her. I took that commitment seriously and found it difficult to give up. However, friends helped me see that she was a sick person and very devious, too. And she even got off on all that. We went through a long and ugly divorce. And as the saying goes, the best revenge is to move on and live a good life. I have had a great life with several respectful, healthy, loving partners since her. My advice is like what others have said — trust your gut. If you feel like you’re being lied to, it is very likely that you are. You deserve better.""After four years of marriage and another four years dating. She started 'staying late' at work. I’d make dinner and take care of our baby boy, and she’d be a no-show, claiming she forgot to call. Then she drove to a work event three hours away, and I found her location coming from a hotel. She drove home drunk, but luckily, with all the snow, no one knew. Finally, I caught her sending Snapchats. We divorced shortly after, and she kept me tied up in court for three more years, claiming I was to blame. That is still the best thing that ever happened to me, because life moved on beautifully.""Their best friend's LiveJournal. The only reason I was aware of it was because my wife used to make fun of it with another one of her friends for being so cringe. It was very cringe, that is why I would read it also. So, I had it bookmarked and would occasionally catch up on it when I was bored. The girl was talking about her friend sleeping around while her husband was at home, and that it made her angry because he was a good guy. I knew she only hung out with, like, three people, and it was easy to deduce who the post was about. Luckily, I was more upset about the splitting and loss of material things in the divorce than my wife." "I found a CD of love songs in her car. I was moving her car off the driveway and singing along to the Nine Inch Nails song 'Something I Can Never Have' when it dawned on me, 'This isn't my car and she hates NIN.' I skipped through the tracks, and it was obviously a mix tape of love songs. The guy she was cheating with turned out to be the one she was always telling me was such a good dad, husband, and family man. All the while I worked full-time, then looked after the kids when she was out working on her 'business.'""She would always place her phone on tables faced down, and when she was using it near me, she would angle her phone out of sight whenever an Insta notification popped up, so I decided to see why." "My fiancée was driving us home from a party and using her phone to navigate. I went to pick it up and check the directions, and she freaked out, saying I couldn't just use her phone without permission and how that was an invasion of privacy. I wasn't sure what to make of that until she left herself logged into Facebook on my desktop a couple of weeks later, and I noticed messages from a guy I didn't recognize. If it hadn't been for the odd response in the car, I wouldn't have scrolled up through them and discovered that she'd been making plans to see him and lying to him about me for months." "I was completely devastated, but I screenshotted everything in case she decided to lie to me about it later. When I asked her friend about it, she said my fiancée had met the guy at a wedding they'd gone to in Vegas six months earlier and that they'd hooked up there. The friend had thought it was a one-time thing, but wasn't surprised when I told her things had kept going. We'd been together 16 years, and I never saw it coming." "She was hiding her phone, and there was a change in behavior. She was getting defensive when I questioned her about it in the beginning. I'm very trusting, but my gut was screaming at me that something was wrong. I looked through her phone one day and found she had been sharing explicit images/videos with a colleague for at least five months." "All texts were deleted, but the images/videos were in her WhatsApp sent folder, as well as images/vids of him he sent her in the received folder. It was enough for me to file for divorce.""After being convinced I was mentally unwell for being paranoid that she was cheating, I started getting therapy/medication for it. Then, I went on her phone to see that she was worried about being pregnant with the guy I was told 'not to worry about.'" "She called him while she thought I was asleep, and told him how much she 'craved him.' I rolled over and told her to leave. She did, and she had the nerve to be shocked when she came back to find her stuff out in the street and the locks changed…" "She was a stay-at-home mom and got on too well with our landlord’s son, who lived next door. One evening, she disappeared into the son’s caravan in the backyard. The van rocked a little too much. Didn’t take a genius to work out what they were doing. Marriage ended shortly after.""I discovered she was cheating when she had me check her phone because it wasn’t receiving calls, and she didn’t realize that deleted messages were still in the deleted files, and that’s when I saw 'I’ll be out for a while if you can call.' She tried to deny it but knew she was busted and gave in. Said she will never do it again, and it’s been two years, but I’m still on edge and watching phone ledgers.""My mom had me at a very young age. And growing up, it was just me, my mom, and grandpa. I often got teased by my friends about how my mom was a milf. I dated my ex-wife for a year before we got married. I was 24, she was 29. For the entire three years I was with my ex-wife, she and my mom were inseparable. I thought they were more like sisters than in-laws. It wasn’t until my grandpa caught them together and broke the news to me. They had been cheating on me since I first introduced my ex to my mom. We divorced, and the only person I’m in contact with now is my now-ailing grandpa. The last I heard, my mom and ex are married, and they have two children through IVF. As for me, it took me a while to get over the hurt. But now I've been married for three years.""My girlfriend was supposed to be at her mom’s for the weekend, but when I drove by her apartment on my way home from hanging out with friends, I saw her light on and her car in the driveway. I thought she must have just come home early , so I stopped in to see if she wanted to hang out. When I knocked on the door, I heard muffled voices and shuffling around, but no one answered. I knew right then what was going on, but I wasn’t going to knock down the door, so I left." "The week before, I’d set up her phone answering machine, and it had a unique feature called 'room monitor,' which would let you call and listen to the sounds of the room it was sitting in. It was so you could use the answering machine as a baby monitor or to see if someone was in your home while you were out. I arrived at my apartment, called, and it went to voicemail. I dialed her access security code , and voilà, I was hearing everything in the room. She lived in a studio, so the phone wasn’t far from the bed. I heard her and some random guy having intercourse from start to finish — all three minutes of it.""I walked in on her with a 20-something-year-old guy in our bed. Even though she yelled, 'It wasn’t what it looked like,' I dragged him out of the bed, picked him up, and threw him into the foyer. But it was after that that I really discovered what was going on by checking the phone bill — 9,000 text messages with a guy I didn’t know existed. And that led me to dig through the house for more evidence, which was easy to find, including a bottle of pills only given to women after a birth or abortion. Since we hadn’t had sex in months, it was easy to figure out what she’d done. Filed for divorce the next day."She was having too many 'girls' nights out.' I was skeptical. I checked her location on Find My and saw that she was at the neighbor's house. He’s single. A betrayal like that is devastating." "Not me, but a coworker. He went on a Contiki tour with his missus for his 21st birthday. Booked a 45-day tour, seeing 15 different countries. A week or two into the trip, she gets caught hooking up with some random guy in a club in Barcelona. He is obviously devastated, and now he has to face the prospect of potentially traveling for another month with the girl who just stomped on his heart. He contemplated just calling it a day and flying home, but other members of the tour convinced him to stay, have a good time, and get on with his life, enjoying the holiday he had paid for. He organized with Contiki and the tour guides to rework the accommodation so he was no longer in a room with her." "He told me he had a marvelous time, made some great new friends, and got to experience new things. She was miserable the whole time, as the entire group basically shunned her, ignored her on nights out, and she desperately hoped to get back with her now-ex, who wanted nothing to do with her. He changed his flights on the way home to fly home later than she was, and extended his European holiday in order to keep the party going with some of the new friends he had made.""She had done some unexpected personal grooming and packed lingerie to take to work with her. When we got home at the end of the day and she went off to get ready for bed, I pulled the very used lingerie out of her bag and confronted her. She evaded initially, but ended up confessing it was some guy from her work she had only met a couple of days earlier." "That was three weeks ago. She's still sleeping with the new guy, while I've moved out and am trying to figure out how to sell the house we bought together seven months ago. So, fun times." "She left her diary on the lounge room floor when she went to work. I debated reading it, but eventually gave in. It was then that I found out about her sleeping with my brother multiple times while I was working night shift. When I confronted her about it, I was called a prick for reading her diary and for working night shift, therefore not being home when she got horny. I tried to explain the difference in levels of the bad things we did, but she didn't see any. For some reason, we didn't last after that...""I was rubbing her stomach in bed, and she made a joke about not being pregnant, assuring me she'd had a pregnancy test two weeks before. We hadn't seen each other in three months because she was studying in Scotland..." "She didn’t come home after dropping our youngest off at preschool two miles away for the afternoon session. I noticed she had makeup on and showered early, on her day off, which never happened. I watched her location, and she was in a rural area that she never goes to. I zoomed in and took a screenshot of it. Drove down and walked in on her, butt naked, in his trailer, waiting for round two. He was outside smoking a cigarette, and when I walked up, he looked like he thought I was about to kill him.""Found her SmartWatch, which she left at home when she was heading out to New Year's Eve with 'The Girls.' I thought it would be funny to 'spy' on her texts as the watch was buzzing like wild, and I figured she and her friends were discussing meetup spots and the like. Only to see kissy faces and hearts from a mutual online friend whom she was apparently meeting. Yeah, it wasn't a great New Year. Luckily, that was January 2020, so that HAD to be the worst thing that would happen to me that year. Get it all out of the way at the start, right?" "I got let go from work early because we were overstaffed. She had ironically taken the day off for a mental health day. I pulled up into the driveway, and when I walked in the door, I immediately heard moaning upstairs. I'm assuming she's masturbating. I go up there and open the bedroom door... And my wife is on her back, alright. Except there's also another woman straddling her face. It's another mom of one of the kids our kid goes to school with. I had no idea my wife was even into women at all.""I was suspicious. My Spidey Sense was tingling. She left her laptop open and logged into her work email. Her lover was a coworker. Nothing was in the inbox. Dummy deleted all the emails but didn't delete her trash. It was all there. Cool, cool, cool." And finally,"My then-wife needed an emergency shot of Imitrex for a migraine. Fumbling through her purse looking for it, I found a tear in the fabric. Lo and behold, she had condoms stashed in there. It was rough, but I did end up with full custody of my two boys. Happily married to a wonderful woman now, and everyone is okay."Did you accidentally catch your spouse cheating? What happened? Tell us in the comments below. Or, if you want to remain anonymous, leave a comment using the form below.
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