These are the signs of a narcissistic mother, how being raised by a narcissistic parent can affect children, and how to heal and find peace.
Because you have fabulous empathy for others—telling yourself that"," that Mom has her reasons for acting this way—the only way to maintain such unnaturally high empathy reserves is to blunt any empathy you have for yourself.
As children, the easiest way we take control of situations is to blame ourselves. If you were to visualize self-blame as a muscle, then by adulthood, this well-pumped muscle has become the size of the Hulk. You'll experience guilt for things you did and the things you did not do. For being human—experiencing certain emotions, making mistakes every human makes—and for the things others did, that you blame yourself for. And you'll shame yourself because you see yourself as a fundamentally bad and unlovable person.Children raised by narcissistic mothers often grow up to have poor standards and poor boundaries. While standards are the.
Because it's unconscious, you are suckered back into such relationships over and over again. The traumatized child inside you believes,"If I work harder, this time, it will be different."Attachment is a way we can understand how we perceive and respond to intimacy in relationships. While genetics and other life experiences matter, the way our parents cared for us is a major force in shaping ourBeing brought up by a narcissistic mother, you might develop an insecure attachment.
You might protest that this makes you inauthentic. But you don't go to war without weapons or shields. Remember this, and you can then reserve all your energy and authenticity for those who have your back. While I advocate no contact—because you've paid enough, and you owe her nothing—I get that it's not always practical. In these cases, have as little contact as possible, and any form of you playing nice is, not unconscious, in order to move the pawns on the metaphorical chessboard.
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